IF YOU HAVE MORE INFORMATION
ON GELDENHUYS THAN IS PUBLICLY AVAILABLE,
IF YOU WERE SEXUALLY ABUSED BY HIM,
OR ARE THE PARENT OF A CHILD HE ABUSED
PLEASE, MAKE CONTACT.
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If you were at any time sexually abused by Geldenhuys or your child was, please make contact.
Being sexually abused is difficult to admit to yourself, let alone to a stranger. Please remember these few points, adapted from the South African Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse's handbook:
The sexual abuse was not your fault, nor did you invite Geldenhuys's actions. There is no reason to feel shame. No matter how your body reacted, no matter how many times you went back, no matter that you kept it a secret, no matter if you accepted money or other favours from him. It is not your fault. You were a child and Dr Geldenhuys is a sexual predator that took advantage of you.
You are not alone. There are many of us. Dr Geldenhuys's abuse of young boys spans at least 30 years and may still be continuing. One in six boys will be sexually abused before the age of 18, according to researchers.
Speaking about your sexual abuse is not a silver bullet—but it can be a start towards healing and maybe justice. Acknowledging that you were violated, getting the help of a mental health care professional to help you cope and speaking with others who were similarly violated can help make memory of your sexual abuse less scary. Doing these things may give the violation less power over you in the present and future.
It's never too late to speak out. The courage of the 'Frankel 8' gave other victims and survivors of sexual abuse the legal right to take action against their abuser, no matter when.
You can make contact via Facebook, WhatsApp, Twitter or email using the links below.
Women & Men Against Child Abuse
Child Line South Africa
Sonke Gender Justice
Additional helplines and hotlines
National GBV Helpline: 0800 150 150
Life Line South Africa: 0861 322 322
AIDS Helpline: 0800 012 322
National Counselling Line: 0861 322 322
Child Line South Africa: 0800 055 555
South African Police Service: 10111
Legal Aid: 0800 110 110